Thursday, September 18, 2014

Heartpoet's Health & Stalkers


Heartpoet's  appointment with the Plastic Surgeon was late yesterday afternoon. We truly had no idea which way the cards would fall so were naturally a lil anxious. Thankfully I can report that Heartpoet's days of being carved up like a Christmas Turkey are well and truly over. 3rd time lucky. The remaining skin cancer was successfully removed. Healthy parameters all round. No Radiation Therapy required. The wound is healing nicely. The plastic Surgeon confirmed that the tight uncomfortable feel will settle over time. The scar will fade to barely noticeable and to continue treating the area with whatever we are currently using as it is working a treat. I personally have used this particular oil as part of my nightly beauty regime on my face/neck/decolletage for a number of years now. Liquid gold I tell you. Liquid gold! Thank you for sharing your beauty secret with us Kimmie I hear you all exclaim. You're welcome :D



When people genuinely don't like you they move on.
Yes they do!
People with issues do not.
To those stuck
 in the not willing/able to move on stage 
I say...
Did you F up badly?
And are you...
Still angry at self? 
And are you...
Not used to not getting your own way and or losing?
And is your...
Ego bruised?

Well here's the thing...
If you go through life with your head in the sand
 all people will see is an arse.
Your actions are screaming over your words.
You are not a victim of circumstance,
you are a product of your decisions.
The day you stop blaming others
is the day you begin to discover who you truly are.
Call yourself on your own bullshit!
Disrobe, turn on all of the lights
 and take a good long look at yourself
 in a full length mirror.
Happy with what you see? 
Bitterness is the deadly root that devours and destroys.

Haters your opinions are not Heartpoet's or my reality!
Obsessing over Heartpoet's and my life together
 does not pour goodness into yours!
Move on.

Not convinced?
Cheated and wore rose coloured glasses
when gazing upon your 'heavenly' form?








Monday, September 15, 2014

The Things That Truly Matter Most




The Parent’s Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents. By William Martin,


I don’t have a lot to say about the above quote. Sometimes that’s the only fit response when you encounter sheer wisdom. There is not much to say, just a great deal to ponder.

However before we can invite our children to see the extraordinary in the ordinary, we ourselves need to practice that discipline.

The quiet fidelity of a partner. A hand to hold. A shoulder to cry on. A meal cooked by a friend. A warm crackling fire and piping hot mug of tea to banish for a moment the chill of winter. The smell of the ocean on a sun-kissed summers day. A good book. A quiet moment to rest and reflect. A quote that makes you sit up and take notice.

Each of these is a small, even mundane thing. Yet each also has the capacity, if we are open to it, to usher us into an experience of grace, when goodness presents itself not as a prize to be sought but a gift to be received. 

Emotional intelligence (emotional maturity, self-awareness, empathy and self-control) is just as important (if not more so in Heartpoet's and my humble opinions) as formal education. Intellectually overdeveloped yet emotionally underdeveloped? A degree then can become just a mere piece of paper.

Real-life everyday heroes/heroines improvise and make do with very little, because they know that their greatest assets are the things that are often taken for granted or completely overlooked. Everything else is just gravy.

When we find strength and peace and calm and happiness in all the ordinary things around us. The things that truly matter most. The extraordinary will then take care of itself.


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Sunday, September 14, 2014

Hear Ye, Hear Ye



It is horrible seeing your loved one carved up once let alone three times. During quiet moments along the way who was there for Heartpoet on each occasion and who was not has crossed my mind. As it has Heartpoet's. With this latest operation Heartpoet only felt comfortable sharing the finer details with those who have shown him ongoing respect and where loyalty and trust was a given.

Heartpoet was so much sorer this time round. Not surprising given the plastic surgeon went much deeper than prior operations and this time round there were internal as well as external stitches. Heartpoet (never one to complain) reports his neck currently has a real tight uncomfortable feel to it on that side. Hopefully time will rectify this issue. Thankfully there was no paralysis resulting from this operation. A blessing given the skin cancers close proximity to a facial nerve on Heartpoet's jawline. The type of skin cancer Heartpoet has can be highly disfiguring. This coming week we have a follow up appointment with the plastic surgeon. We will be given Heartpoet's pathology results at this appointment. Heartpoet and I were both surprised and shocked that this went beyond one operation so we are not sure what to expect results wise. What we do know (from what we have been told) is Radiation Therapy would be the likely outcome if they have not managed to get it all this time round. I am a brave gutsy gal that has endured much in her lifetime however my mind shuts down at the thought of this happening to my soul-mate. I have done a wee bit of research on the matter but quickly decided that I would not take my mind down that avenue when the cards may not fall in that way for my Poet. 

During my most recent time of quiet reflection (mentioned above) I stumbled across a quote by Academy Award winning actress Meryl Streep (widely regarded as one of the greatest actresses of all time). I wholeheartedly echo Meryl's sentiments. Meryl's wise words truly struck a chord with me and mirror how I feel at this time/stage of my life. So without further ado...


Hear Ye, Hear Ye



To quote  ~*Meryl Streep*~

“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship/family I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.” 





Saturday, September 13, 2014

Life's short so...



* Don't wait for special occasions. Declare that your TODAY is the special occasion.

* Don't tuck away your best in sets of drawers, in the back of your cupboards/wardrobes, or in the caverns of your heart. 

* Wear your expensive perfume (saved for special occasions) everyday.

* Ditch all of your faded/saggy/baggy/misshapen/holy underwear and invest in new stylish/sexy well fitting underwear. Get your underwear right and you'll look and feel great. What does your underwear say about you?

* Show those you love a lil respect. Brief impersonal (conscience easing) text messages are NOT an acceptable nor caring/loving way to mark a special occasion. Nor is a last minute brief impersonal email. Visit or at the very least call - it feels oh so good to connect.

* Burn candles through the day as well as at night.

* Discard your glory days, you've told all of those stories more than twice - focus forward.

* Write poetry - write about what your everyday life offers you - describe your sorrows and desires, the thoughts that pass through your mind and your belief in some kind of beauty. Describe all these with heartfelt, silent, humble sincerity and, when you express yourself, use the things around you, the images from your dreams, and the objects that you remember. 

* East real food. Keep it simple - eat clean. Cook from the heart. Celebrate food together. You are what you eat - so don't be fast, cheap, easy or fake. Your health is your most valuable possession.

* Take lovely long walks.

* Relax your mind/body/soul with meditation. Get comfortable - switch off - feel the benefits.

* Take time out to pamper yourself.

* Do not entertain haters - send light to the haters. Refuse to be in the presence of people who make you feel repressed, anxious, or pull your frequency down.

* Give it away. Simplicity is the ultimate form of sophistication. Ask yourself: Do I use this? Do I really need this? Do I love this? Happiness in the space between having too little and too much. Discover the joy of living with less.

* Let it be easy. Let it be.

* Sometimes you have to sacrifice and let go. Life is a balance of hanging on and letting go. When you’re at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on? Maybe not! What if it’s time to let go? It takes more wisdom to let go than hang on. 

* Silence is the best response to a fool. The less you respond to negative people the more peaceful your life will become.

* Starve your ego. Feed your soul.

* Fall in love. With yourself and all your perfect imperfections. With the person that you are with. With the persons in your orbit. Because no one is perfect. But you can let the love be perfect for the both of you.

* Look up and smile. You will be surprised at how much positive communication can be relayed with no words and just a simple, friendly smile.

* Put your mobile phone away - give your undivided attention to those talking to you. 

* Live your life with an open heart & arms wide open. 

* It pays to remember that everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact and everything we see is a perspective, not a truth. It also pays to remember that opinions are like backsides, everybody has one (some soooo much larger than others ;) ) and that for some their 'truth' is a comfortable delusion. 

* Don't leave words unspoken. Sometimes the words we leave unspoken are the most important ones that should have been said.

* Don't drink cheap/nasty wine or finish books that you are not enjoying.

* Loyalty, honesty, trust and respect NOT anger, selfishness, jealousy and disrespect.

* Never stop making wishes.

* Glass half full, never half empty.

* Got empathy? Like any other human skill the more you practice the better you get.

* Be kind. Always kind. Kindness is a language the deaf can hear and the blind can see.

* Unless it's mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it's a total waste of time! There are too many mediocre things in life. Love should not be one of them! 

* Don't look back, especially with regret and or anger, and definitely not if the 'panoramic view' was abysmal! ;)

* Remember life is a gift. A fragile gift. Never take it for granted.






Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Are You?



Are You?

Are you certain of your gestures of your moments on your time
of the efforts of your minutes of the mountains that you climb?
Are you rightfully defending the things you must defend
protecting those that love you until the very end?
Are you setting an agenda with a structure made of love
surrounded by protection from the stormy clouds above?
Are you wilful in your actions with the right intent in mind
distracted from the moments that make intent unwind?
Are you happy in your moments when the darkness closes in
when the spirits whisper to you of the secrets held within?
Are you filled with love for others not selective in your gift
nor exclusive in expressions in the words that always lift?


Are you?


~*Heartpoet*~



Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Where Love Resides


Where Love Resides

spinning in the sunlight clear
colours on the wind
kisses on the ribbons’ flare
a smile forever pinned
breezes slipping down the side
past lilies in the pond
dragonflies upon the wing
fly further than beyond
songs beneath the leafy boughs
the trees sway back and fro
rustles in the nearby grass
where the snakes lie long and low
peace upon this gentle day
a peace upon the world
gentle breath with every sigh
with every page unfurled
and love to she who comes this way
to bathe in spring so clear
angel of the day’s own night
as soft as baby’s tear
and all my heart belongs to her
she has my soul in hand
starlight on the morning dew
sunshine on her land
so spin on spinner sail away
on the drift of diamond stars
where love resides such peace on earth
within these glowing hearts

~*Heartpoet*~




Monday, September 8, 2014

True Colors



As human beings, we have some things in common. 
Truths we are all subject to:
 We cannot hide our true colors for long and we cannot 
avoid ultimately reaping what we sow. 
Use that knowledge to propel you in goodness
 and remind you why you take the high road.
 Use it also to find peace when you encounter
 those who think they can avoid these truths. 
They cannot.




We're free to make our own choices, 
but every choice that we make literally is a seed that we sow,
 and every seed that we sow
 will bring some kind of harvest in our life...


There can be no bitchin' 
if one day you find yourself surrounded by a harvest of
 bloated bitter gourds - if this was your seed of choice.


When a sprinkling of sweet petunia seeds
 could have resulted in the above.




How people treat you is their karma - how you react is yours.
As Heartpoet so wisely says...
Sometimes the best reaction...is NO reaction!!!


A new slant on the old saying...
"You made your garden bed now go lie in it".


We cannot direct the wind but we can always adjust the sails right?! ;)


In our home we choose to walk in fields of gold.





Sunday, September 7, 2014

Father's Day - Dear Heartpoet



You have excelled in your role of nurturer/protector Heartpoet.



Dear Heartpoet

Is there anything better than having you as my son's step-father? Hmmmm I dunno! Perhaps the fact that one day in the hopefully not too distant future you will be my son's children's grandpapa. Oh how that thought makes me smile! In yours and Brenton's case it is not flesh and blood, but heart that makes you father and son. From day dot you have ALWAYS been gentle, warm, loving, caring, and kind towards Brenton. You never operate with an agenda. You have ALWAYS had Brenton's best interests at heart - because of this you have his absolute trust and respect. It is a given that Brenton loves you dearly.

My mind drifts back to the afternoon Brenton and I arrived in Brisbane from Melbourne by airplane to reside with you. Distance and circumstance meant that this was Brenton's first time meeting you in the flesh. Up until that point it had been phone calls and letters (some addressed to Brenton) with photo's enclosed. As Brenton and I alighted hand in hand from the plane and strode on to the tarmac that day Brenton pointed you out on the other side of the glass arrivals lounge window. There you stood - big smile on your dial, waving frantically, a green stuffed toy frog tucked under one arm for Brenton whilst holding a dozen long stemmed red roses for myself. Once inside the arrivals lounge the very first thing you did was to drop down (like the picture in the quote above) directly in front of Brenton. Smiling warmly you introduced yourself and shook his hand. You gifted him Filbert the frog. You then made him a solemn promise that you would protect, love and care for him and his mum (myself) forever. Brenton has always felt safe, secure and much loved in your company/care. He has never ever felt fearful or anxious, never once not wanted be in your company/care. 


Families that are 'mean't to be' are the ones that go through everything that is designed to tear them apart and come out even stronger than before. That's us baby! They say that your children will become who you are; not who you want them to be. With you as a role model for my son that's mighty fine by me! Happy Father's Day dearheart! Brenton and I love you to the moon and back and them some.



 Father's Day gifts for Heartpoet from Brenton...

George Foreman Healthy Cooking Grill




Gold Class Movie Voucher 



 "Make a visit to the movies a total delight to the senses. The Event Gold Class experience now features a fabulous choice of food and beverages with our best-ever menu. Our new and wide-ranging selections include delicious starters, main courses, share plates, indulgent desserts, together with a fully stocked bar menu featuring wine, beer, spirits and cocktails"

Brenton is unfortunately working today. So the three of us will have a delish dinner (a tad later than usual) when he arrives home from work later this evening. Might christen George ha!
 The 'boys' will use the generous Gold Class voucher
 one night this coming week.
Dinner and a movie in style!



Father's day gifts for Heartpoet from moi...

Italian leather wallet




The Invisible Woman DVD - 
Starring Ralph Fiennes, Felicity Jones,
 Kristin Scott Thomas,  Tom Hollander.
 Directed by Ralph Fiennes 
At the height of his career, Charles Dickens meets a
 younger woman who becomes his secret lover until his death. 
Heartpoet and I had really wanted to see this at the movies recently
however life got busy and we missed it. 
I just know my Poet and I will LOVE this movie!
This afternoon I shall be popping some popcorn, making some homemade choc top ice-creams (low fat/no sugar) and pouring a couple of icy cold Coke Zero's. 
A relaxing afternoon awaits.





The Invisible Woman Trailer



Readers we have an amazing calling as parents. It doesn’t end just because they become young adults! There are so many fun ways we can bless our children and bond with them as they are growing up. They are unique people who need us to encourage them and support them as they transition into the next season of life. They are individuals. They are not us! We need to remember that and find ways to help them succeed in becoming the people they are meant to be! It will make such a difference!



Oh and before I wrap this blog post up...
Check out 'Anne'.
Anne has been known to make grown men drool!
So popular is 'Anne' she has gone viral!
Our 'Anne' (pictured above) 
 is just waiting to be topped with farm fresh strawberries.
A freshly baked/iced Father's Day treat.
Off now to put the kettle on.


Happy Father's Day to all the awesome Dad's.
Today I raise my glass in honor of you!

Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is watching.

We can only bring peace to our children when we possess it ourselves.