Monday, April 4, 2011

Suicide


Heartpoet sadly lost a long time dear friend age 55 to suicide Friday afternoon. You would have had to travel an awfully long way to find a nicer guy. He had battled health issues since his 20's - bipolar/depression and had also been involved in a terrible car accident in his 30's (not his fault) that caused significant damage to the discs in his back. However he was not one to whinge or moan and although always smiling the unrelenting back pain he suffered was clearly visible looking into his eyes. Sadly his marriage crumbled due to his health issues. His two beloved daughters (one now in her early twenties and working, the other now 17 and just started Uni) chose to live with their dad at the time of their parents separation. The girls adored their dad as did all that knew him. Friday morning Heartpoet's friend was diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease. Knowing his history his Dr. sent him home alone to an empty house with no support plan in place. What happened next we can only imagine. His younger daughter found her dad on return home from Uni. He had hung himself in the family home. The pain is so raw for those who knew him well. Despite his lot in life this warm, engaging, kind, gentle man loved life and lived it to the fullest always with a smile on his dial. He lived his life with a my cups half full never half empty mentality. Knowing this compounds the pain for those left behind. We can only begin to imagine the extent of the pain and inner turmoil this man battled alone Friday morning that resulted in such tragedy.



12 comments:

Squiggly Rainbow said...

oh so sad. My love and prayer goes out to his dear daughters. I have been following your blog over the weekend, and it is just lovely.

I hope your husband is okay. I am so glad to have discovered many more people discussing mental illness. I began posting about it yesterday in my blog.

I have also been following another blog of a QLD lady who's husband hung himself this year. Oh, so sad.

Blessings to you and yours
Rachael x

balletmama said...

Kimmie, the loss of a parent impacts on you forever. The loss of a parent to suicide is a private hell. I have a niece who lost her Mum to suicide when she was the same age as my own darling girl is now. Sizteen years on, my dear niece still battles her own demons as a result of her Mums death. My heart goes out to the girls and to you and Heartpoet...(((hugs)))

joolzmac said...

That is terribly sad. Suicide is such a cruel act and I have always thought it to be so selfish. In this mans case, it obviously offered him a better way out and I hope is is at peace now. So sad for his family and friends like Heartpoet but his suffering is over.
Our town lost a 16 year old boy only last week (he also hanged himself and his younger brother found him (!). I'm not sure of his troubles but he obviously was in turmoil too. How bad can life be at that age?
I also lost a cousin the same way and in his case, I believe it was a very selfish act and left his adoptive parents devastated as they had given him a very good life and loving upbringing. Suicide is so cruel for those left behind.

Joolz

Mel said...

This is such sad news. My heart goes out to his daughters. Please pass on my condolences to Heartpoet.

alliecat said...

Ho sad and how terribly tragic for all concerned. Sorry for yours and Heartpoet's loss xx

A Blessed Life said...

O'h Kimmie,how sad is this post,more and more people are suffering and not coping, I honestly think those that take their lives have no idea about the ones left behnd, I am sure he would do nothing to hurt his preciuos girls yet how will the one who found him live with this,I pray that God holds him close and comforts him and that he watches down on these lovely young ladies as they come to terms with their lives,just tragic..

My Blessed Serendipity Life said...

So sorry to hear this sad news. I have a dear friend that lost her husband to suicide just a couple of months ago. The pain left behind with family and friends is enormous.
hugs and love,
Danielle

Debbie said...

That is such sad news for family and friends involved. A lot more of this is happening as people just can't cope anymore and don't know where to turn.

cathy@home said...

What sad news I cant even imagine the poor girl that found her father. Depression it's such a horrible disase. My deepest condolances and prayers for you,Heartpoet and the mans family.

Through My Kitchen Window said...

I was a telephone counsellor for Lifeline and the subject of suicide as you can imagine is all too common. If only he had picked up the phone to talk that day. There are many and will be many "what if's" for those left behind. I also worry about the trauma felt by his daughter. Please check on her, she needs to be able to talk freely. Encourage her to talk and seek help if she needs to.

Sally said...

I'm so sorry to read this post Kimmie.

My thoughts are with Heartpoet, and his friend's daughters. I hope they can find some comfort in knowing what a wonderful man their father was,

Love, Sally xxx

A Treasured Past said...

Oh Kimmie, that is so so sad....