Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Party time for the littlies

Princess Teacups and Milky Way Cars are fun, easy to make party treats that look fantastic and are always a big hit with littlies. They also make a nice change from the one big cake sent along to a child's class for birthday/end of year celebrations.

Ok for the teacups you will need...

1 packet of Tic Toc Biscuits
250 grams of Marshmallows (pink and white)
1 packet Freckles
2 packets of Musk Lifesavers
White choc melts

You then need to...

Place white choc melts in a microwave safe bowl and heat in the microwave for 30 secs, checking the texture and heating again for short bursts until melted. Using a thin object (I used a chopstick), spread melted choc on the smallest end of the marshmallow. Place marshmallow in the middle of the iced side of the biscuit and press down lightly. Spread melted choc on to the flat side of the freckle. Place freckle on top of the marshmallow and press lightly. Carefully cut a lifesaver in half. I find it easiest to use a small sharp knife and start with one side only. Spread melted choc on each end of the halved lifesaver. Place handle on to the side of the marshmallow. You may need to hold it for a little to bit to make sure that it adheres properly.

Ok for the Milky Way Cars you will need...

1 packet Milky Way Bars
1 packet Tiny Teddies Biscuits
Milk choc melts

You then need to...

Set up a production line. I set up the bars and allocate four smarties the same colour per car (you can use diff colours but I am anal and think they look better all the same ha!). Holding the bar by the sides, press the tiny teddy gently into the bar. Place milk choc melts in a microwave safe bowl and heat in the microwave for 30 secs, checking the texture and heating again for short bursts until melted. Using a thin object (I used a chopstick), place a small amount of melted chocolate on to smarties then stick to bar.

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Kimmie's: http://facebook.com/KNB1966

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Monday, November 28, 2011

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Through the eyes of a child

Heartpoet's fb status posted late last night and the response I posted on his status.

Heartpoet: Just back from a successful Christmas twilight fete held at one of our local primary schools. My business had a stall. Took my sweetheart Kimmie along to keep me company. Stalls filled with all manner of fab Christmas gift ideas and a delish food hall. Gorgeous balmy evening with a hint of a breeze. Santa made an appearance. The school children walked round in groups singing carols. Lots of laughter and smiles. Kim admitted to being wistful that we no longer have children in that age group and I echoed her thoughts. Both of us came home feeling a lot more festive. Christmas through the eyes of a child is a magical wondrous thing don't you think? Sigh!

Kimmie: Had such a lovely time tonight. For dinner we had huge German sausages in long rolls with sour kraut and mustard on top and for dessert authentic Italian gelato - panna cotta and toblerone - so good! Perused all the stalls and SCORED a GORGEOUS new bag (Christmas pressie from Heartpoet, all wrapped and ready for under our tree). Yup actually felt my heart physically ache a tad when I was reminded just how much I miss having a younger child to mother.

Gods idea of some kind of a joke? Making me a mother hen (right from the start) and then having me go on to endure 4 painful miscarriages and almost losing Brenton in the early stages of pregnancy. I decided not long after Brenton's birth that I was not going to become bitter but would always be the glass half full girl (not half empty) and be grateful. Grateful that I have experienced what sadly many never will. Being the glass half full girl has served me well. My patchwork heart will however take me by surprise from time to time and serve me up a reminder of the hopes/dreams/plans I held so dear.

A gypsy that read my cards a few years ago immediately touched on this issue and the reason why. A reason I had never considered that made perfect sense and was a reward of sorts. However to me it felt and still feels so unfair (I can touch more on this in another post if any ones interested). From past to present she hit every nail on the head. I was also told that day that she saw me being a happy Nan to three or more beautiful grandchildren. This news made my heart sing!

Heartpoet I could not agree with you more - Christmas through the eyes of a child is indeed a magical wondrous thing!

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Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Thank you!

G'day gorgeous bloggers both near and far!

“For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it.”
~*Ivan Panin*~

First up thank you so much for all your lovely comments and emails wishing me a happy birthday on Sunday. Secondly thanks a bunch for the concern shown and love sent in regards to Brenton's health. Thankfully it would appear he is on the mend. He is still in a little pain however the pain has greatly reduced compared to what he was experiencing this time last week. I have never known such a special group of people all from the one place - Blog Land. Your comments and emails really do light up my heart!

“The idea is to write it so that people hear it and it slides through the brain and goes straight to the heart.”
~*Maya Angelou*~

*Oh and for those of you who emailed curious as to exactly what was in that lil silver gift bag from Heartpoet (Stu) let me simply say that a lil bit of bling can add a whole lotta sparkle to a gals life!

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Sunday, November 20, 2011

Happy 45th Birthday Kimmie

For the centre of my universe - HAPPY BIRTHDAY 2011!

Never under-estimate the depth of my love for you. Never in the history of mankind has there been a greater love than mine for you! Every minute you make my heart sing!

Happy, happy, happy birthday to you!

Love and never ending hugs, cuddles, kisses and whispers.

Stuart (Heartpoet)

Hair Ablaze @ 45

Fine lit hair the sun afire blazing arrows soar
scent so sweet in dreams the bees their queen for evermore
eyes of golden brown the gaze Egyptian goddess high
insights on the blazing sands caresses on your sigh
silken skin of finest thread gossamer of white
naked in the universe lightning of the night
legs the legs to ankle drive a finely scenic trip
knees to please upon the way diversion oh so hip
toes to touch sleep inspires angles to the skies
heavens breath upon your soul trapezing higher wires
birthday happy birthday welcome sweet life's child
sparkles on a birthday moon waning to the wild
hollow in a nearby tree empty or with life
synergy to nature's way blessings on your life
and thus this portrait nearly done the final paint to dry
how am I to match thy smile and should I even try
for surely on this wondrous earth where Adele and Elvis sing
magic always shows its hand the hatted dove to wing
birthday happy birthday a Sunday's joy to share
whispers in the noonday sun a love beyond compare
so wander hand in hand with me with your fine lit hair ablaze
and listen while our love explodes on the grandest lover's stage...

For my darling Kim Nicole 2011


Saturday, November 19, 2011

Kimmie's Handemade Seed & Spice Soap Balls

These are great soaps to make, firstly because they can be made for economical and novel gifts, and secondly, even the kids can get involved.

350g of Lux Soap Flakes
5 tablespoons of water
5 tablespoons of olive oil
1 tablespoon of ground cinnamon
1 tablespoon of ground ginger
1 tablespoon of poppy seeds
1 tablespoon of sesame seeds

Place the soap flakes into a large bowl, adding the water and the oil. Mix these ingredients with a spoon. Knead the mixture with your hands until it resembles play dough. Divide the soap 'dough' into 16 portions by scooping out a rounded tablespoon of soap mixture for each portion, shaping each portion into a ball.

Place one tablespoon of each of the seeds and spices into 4 separate bowls or saucers. Quickly dip a soap ball in a small bowl of cold water then roll it between your hands to evenly wet the surface. Now drop the soap ball into the poppy seed bowl, dry your hands then swivel the bowl around to coat the soap ball evenly with sesame seeds. Roll and press the seed coated soap ball between your hands to 'fix' the seeds. Working with one seed or spice at a time, repeat this step to coat the remaining soap balls. Gift in pretty organza draw string bags or gift boxes lined with tissue paper.

So I won't let you close enough to hurt me

For my parents...

Close enough to start a war

All that I say, you always say more

Under haunted skies I see you, ooh
Where love is lost, your ghost is found
I braved a hundred storms to leave you
As hard as you try, no I will never be knocked down

So I won't let you close enough to hurt me
No, I won't ask you, you to just desert me

I can't keep up with your turning tables
Under your thumb, I can't breathe

So I won't let you close enough to hurt me, no
I won't ask you, you to just desert me
I can't give you, what you think you give me
It's time to say goodbye to turning tables
Turning tables

I'll be braver
I'll be my own savior
When the thunder calls for me
I'll be braver
I'll be my own savior
Standing on my own two feet

~*Adele Turning Tables lyrics*~

Friday, November 18, 2011

Health Update Brenton - Everyone Needs a Mum

My facebook posts copied and pasted from approx 6pm yesterday through to approx 9.30 am this morning.

* Read my blog post re Brenton today? Well things got worse not better sigh. Back to Dr's on closing and sent straight to ER sigh! Filthy homeless man with serious mental health issues absolutely losing the plot in waiting room because Brenton is going straight in as his condition considered a priority. Heartpoet and I now wait. Feels like they have the heating rather than air con on. Time to meditate Kim lol*

*Only one of us allowed in with him at a time. After many hours of sitting with him Heartpoet is now taking a turn as I needed a drink of water and toilet break. Using Heartpoet's iPad to post with. Dr's are fairly certain test results do not point to appendix. They feel it's either a complication from the flu he has not long recovered from or nerve damage from back flips at mates pool. They are consulting with head surgeon now regarding where things go from here.*

*We live in a lovely part of Nth Brisbane however I swear every drugged out and or drunk lunatic and his dog in Queensland have rocked up to this ER waiting room tonight. Ranting, crazed, bloodied and off their faces with security and police hot on their tails. So off putting and makes an already stressful time all the more! Is there a full moon tonight? Sigh! Hate it when my kids are sick! They have given Brenton pain relief as he was in tears with the pain and upset (he normally has a high pain threshold) so must really hurt.*

*I need a hug*

*Well we are home after a long night of tests and worry and still don't have a definitive answer and he is still in pain. Tests do not point to appendix although they cannot be 100% sure that it is not his appendix they said. Nerve damage from back flips in pool is a possibility however the surgeon that saw Brenton leans towards Brenton having complications from the flu. Brenton had quite a bad strain of the flu a fortnight ago and had recovered or so we thought. Whilst I realise when you have the flu you can get aches and pains I had no idea that whilst on its way out it could settle in one part of the body and cause complications - intense localized pain with no other flu symptoms. He has to take anti inflam pain meds, rest and yet again wait and see. If no further symptoms develop that point to appendix and pain persists or gets worse they will then do a procedure where they insert a small camera to check things out. All so tired and over not knowing.*

Footnote: I hate it when my kids are sick, not knowing makes it so much worse. Brenton became a tad teary and emotional in the ER at one stage late last night (a combo of the pain that has gone on for some time now, anxiety over not having a diagnosis, hunger and overtired). All I could do was quietly and gently love on him and stay calm in an effort to help him relax. Whilst in the ER Brenton repeatedly told me how thankful he was to have me as his Mum and Heartpoet as his Step Dad, that he loved us both and was so grateful that Heartpoet and I are always there for him no matter what. I always rise to the occasion at times like last night no matter how worried or stressed I am and are a tower of strength. Today? Well I am absolutely exhausted, a tad teary and still concerned as we have no definite answer regarding his pain.

Today I wish I had a mum who could hug me like I hug Brenton with the assurance that all will be ok...

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Thursday, November 17, 2011

Brenton Update

So last week Rhiannon updated a little in regards to what she is currently up to and today I will be updating regarding Brenton. I would have requested that he write this himself but we have just returned from the Drs with him and he is not feeling the best. Tuesday evening around 10pm he complained of pain on his right side - abdomen and into groin area. He is not a big fan of hospitals you might say so Heartpoet and I knew that the pain must have been bad. A trip to our local ER proved a total waste of time sigh! After waiting 4 hrs we discovered that the hospital was in the midst of industrial action on more than one level. With 8 ambulances banked up outside waiting and a packed waiting room we were in for a marathon wait we were told. A nurse was taking patients vitals in the waiting room and as Brenton did not have a temp and his bp was AOK she suggested it would be fine to go home and follow up with our GP. If the pain got any worse or he was to develop a temp and or start vomiting to come straight back. So we all returned home in the wee hrs of Wednesday morning exhausted by both the hour and the heat and concerned because we had no answers for what was causing his pain.

Following up with our wonderful GP he reports it likely to be one of three things. Nerve damage from a sporting type injury (touch footy is long over for the year and not playing any other sport at present so unlikely), shingles with no rash as yet or his appendix playing up that may settle or go on to become full blown appendicitis. So basically it is a case of waiting to see what develops or doesn't as hopefully the case may be. One good thing came from the many hours spent in the hospitals waiting room. Brenton's mobile buzzed constantly with texts. Curiosity got the better of me in the end and I lent in and whispered to him "Who is that texting you darl, Sam?" (his best mate). Brenton replied with a smile and said "No it's *insert girls name* (if Brenton had been born a girl he would have been given this name) and it's early days but I am almost certain she will be my new girlfriend." Brenton had his heart trampled on a number of times by his first and only g/f who he dated for many years. He has not gone out with anyone since. Time spent mending a broken heart, mulling over life lessons learnt. I am really pleased that his heart is now open to loving again and hope that love treats him kinder the second time around. It is Spring in Australia and it would appear new love is in the air ;]

So what is Brenton up to...

After graduating Year 12 last year Brenton took a gap year of sorts this year. That said he has not been lazing around, in fact he has been quite busy. He has a hectic social life with so many wonderful friends of both sexes. You already know from my prior posts of his 3 week snow boarding trip to New Zealand. At one stage he had two casual jobs however he resigned from one a few months back to focus on the other. He is doing really well at work going from casual to p/t and after only being there a short time has been offered a promotion to swing manager. He has won awards for worker of the week and worker of the month. His employer has paid for him to do a Tafe Course - Cert 3 Retail and is also paying him for the hours it takes him to complete it. Brenton has two other Cert 3's from Tafe (Accounting & Legal) that he completed whilst doing Year 12.

As for Brenton's future study/career plans do you remember this excerpt from a blog post of mine in August of this year titled "Dear Brenton"?

When I told you a few weeks back of a friends son who is a tad older than you and was born with Cerebral Palsy you were all ears. I further explained that he is totally dependent upon others for the necessities of life. He can't eat, be toileted, stand, sit or roll over in bed without intervention. I went on to say that since completing year 12 and moving into independent living his mates had sadly drifted away leaving him a tad lonely. I made no hint or suggestion of any involvement from you. As I turned to put the kettle on you came up from behind enveloping me in a big bear hug and said matter of factly..."I would like to go visit your friends son, I am sure we could be mates!" And that is exactly what you did and that is exactly what has happened. A wonderful friendship has blossomed. My friend emailed me recently to say..."If you could have heard the 'disguised' pride in his voice this morning when he rang to remind me to arrange for Brenton...his friend...to get into the unit, you'd appreciate how much this means to him."

You have been undecided as to what career path to follow since completing year 12. Police Force, Psychology, The Australian Defence Forces all looked into but nothing settled on. When Heartpoet and I picked you up from a visit with your new mate last week you were very animated the whole trip home. You had had a light bulb moment and decided that you would like to work in the field of disabilities, deciding to return to study for such next year. It's funny how life works isn't it? How meeting a new friend turned into your light bulb moment!

Well things have been rolling along perfectly for Brenton in regards to his friendship with the above mentioned young man and also his future career. Last week Brenton and I were in the thick of sorting out his course for next year. There are changes afoot regarding the disability courses (content) on offer. We have to ring back mid Jan for further details for an estimated early March commencement.

In Oct 2007 I had my tarot cards read on the spur of the moment and for fun. I have the typed results of that reading that I had shared with no one except for Heartpoet (Brenton has not seen or been told of the content nor is he even aware I had this done). It is just over two pages and this stranger who knew nothing of me or mine was so eerily accurate I got goosebumps every time I picked it up and re read it. She was so very clear and accurate with all that she told that day. From past to present she hit every nail on the head. However as highly accurate as she was there was the one sticking point and I will type it for you here.

"You have only one biological child yes? A son. Your son is a beautiful intelligent man who has a very strong connection to you and a grandmother from the other side who is always with him. He is well adjusted, will marry young and have a peaceful life and will not go very far from you for very long. I see you being a happy Nan to three or more beautiful grandchildren. I sense the word DISABILITY will play a large role in your sons life."

Two pages of highly accurate predictions, then this one as we perceived it to be sticking point. How wrong were we. We read it as her thinking he had a disability even though she did not actually say that. At the time Brenton was wanting to be in the Police Force so we did not even consider she could mean his future career. After not reading this reading for many years I stumbled across it Monday morning whilst sorting through some paperwork. Later that very same day this home received news regarding a job offer for Brenton in the field of disabilities with an anticipated commencement date early 2012. A job offer that Brenton is thrilled to have received and that will fit in around his planned studies for next year. Brenton has stated "How cool will it be to have a job doing something that I enjoy so much that it doesn't feel like going to work each day!"

The stars are definitely aligning for Brenton and both Heartpoet and I are thrilled to bits!

Monday, November 14, 2011

Oh Gail! Story Of A Fish Part 16

Other posts seem to have taken precedence on Monday's of late but never fear Gail is back!

Join Heartpoet here at The Serendipity Cafe Monday's for the ongoing tale of Oh Gail! Story Of A Fish. Trust me you will never look at your fish bowl the same way again lol.

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Imagination can take us to faraway places. During Gail's hours of swimming around the confines of her spherical world, her mind would often drift with the bubble currents to a universe she could never know. She would find herself diving off a jetty into the cool blue splashes of a faraway ocean. At other times she would be hoisting the sails on a 30 foot yacht, spinnaker spluttering in the breeze. In a distant blue lagoon she would break the surface of tropical waters while seagulls circled overhead. There was nowhere Gail's imagination couldn't take her. The mystery of all of this however is that Gail had never actually experienced any of these journeys. Oh Gail! Her reality had simply been confined to her spherical world with Peter the Pirate Ship, coloured pebbles, Lily the Light and more recently Silvestre and her happy brood. Yes, life and love works in mysterious ways. Which brings me to today's question...have you travelled on a journey of the mind yet today?


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Sunday, November 13, 2011

Festive White Chocolate Fudge

375g white chocolate, chopped (choc melts/chips/buttons will work too)
1 tin of sweetened condensed milk
1 tsp of vanilla extract
2/3 of a cup of chopped dried cranberries
1/2 cup of dry roasted, unsalted pistachio nuts

Line an 8″ square baking dish with baking paper or foil.

Combine the white chocolate and sweetened condensed milk in a double boiler or a glass/stainless bowl over some simmering water. Heat until the mixture melts together, whisking occasionally. Stir in the vanilla extract and remove from the heat.

Add all but about 2 Tbsp each of the cranberries and pistachios to the white chocolate mixture, stirring to combine. Spread the mixture into the baking dish in an even layer. Top with the remaining pistachios and cranberries, pressing them in slightly with a spatula if necessary. Allow fudge to set (I do so in the fridge) and then cut into 1 or 1.5″ squares.

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Friday, November 11, 2011

Stewed rhubarb

I was gifted some organic rhubarb this week. As it is so hot and humid here in Brisbane I thought I would simply stew it and serve with ice-cream. Stewed rhubarb also makes for a great pie filling. I usually use half apple and half rhubarb mixed together mmmmm delish!

You will need...

1 bunch rhubarb (500g), trimmed, cut into 3cm pieces
2/3 cup (160g) sugar
2 tablespoons water
1 tablespoon lemon juice

You then need to...

Place the rhubarb, sugar, water and lemon juice into a medium saucepan set over low heat and cover. Simmer gently, stirring occasionally for 10 - 12 minutes or until rhubarb is tender. Remove from the heat and set aside to cool slightly. Store in covered container in fridge.

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Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Hola from Rhiannon

I'm doing a Bachelor of Education: Primary at QUT at the moment, about to finish my first year! I've got two exams this week Thursday and Friday (wellness and citizenship exam, and language design and theory exam) and after that I will have finished first year uni, how scary! I have 3 more years after this year so I'm a quarter of the way through already!! I don't feel old enough to be that far into my degree yet D:

Next year we get to go on prac in an actual classroom for a week or two - nobody knows what the teacher will make them do or if they'll even do anything at all and just sit in a corner watching the class, so that's a bit scary. There are stories going around of people who arrive at their prac but no teacher turns up so they had to teach the class all day without a supervisor - scary stuff! Next year we also choose our minors for our course, I'm thinking of doing Literacy or something called "Engaging Learners". There's one called 'Sex Drugs Rock and Roll' which looks fantastic just by the name. but no. lol. I mostly spend my time procrastinating for my upcoming exams with Harry Potter books and checking out youtube. It's fun.

I'm working at the yellow cabs call centre two days a week at the moment, and while that's less than what I used to do, it gives me time for other things like uni and fame. It's not so bad there, all you have to do is type and talk. I do both of those things well lol. The pay isn't that bad either!

I'm in my last year at fame unfortunately, there's an age limit for students which means the year after you finish High School is your last. I started in 2001 and worked my way up the groups (it's almost like a hierarchy) until I got to HiJinx which I spent a year in this year. They're the most experienced and also oldest kids at fame. Some of them have been there 12 years! This is my tenth year. I'll get a certificate when I leave congratulating me on that, which will be nice. I'm going away with their educational Christmas tour this year for 2 weeks up to Rockhampton, Maryborough, Gympie, and doing some shows back in Brisbane and Nambour. It's nice to do that on my last year, I haven't been before. I will turn 18 whilst I am away! We also have another show called Cabaret which is 50's/60's themed after that. It's basically a show full of solos and small group numbers to show off fame's talent. Hopefully I'll get through the audition round for a trip to London with fame as well, they're sending a group of dancers over to the prelude for the Olympics in London it's called the "BIG DANCE" festival and people from all over the world are attending with dance troops to join in the festivities. It goes for about 10 days and hopefully we'll also get to see some West End shows while we're there!! That's next year in July I think. This year is the last year they will be in the fame theatre where they're situated atm, because it's been re-zoned to residential (They've built apartments ALL around our tiny fame building lol) so soon it will be sold and demolished and fame will have to find a new place to call home. In time for next year's workshops and classes in January! No pressure!

My boyfriend Jack and I have been together now for just over 13 months. He took a gap year this year and is at the moment deciding whether he wants to audition for the fine arts: drama course at QUT where I go, or if he just wants to jump right into auditioning and stuff for actual things. He's not much of a theory person when it comes to drama.


Monday, November 7, 2011

A lil piece of paradise

Every now and then Heartpoet and I escape to a lil piece of paradise only ten minutes drive from our home. Located in the picturesque Samford Valley our local garden nursery has a fabulous gift shop, cafe, beauty/pampering house, homeopath, yoga classes, gymbaroo for the littlies and sells thatched Balinese style gazebo/huts for your backyard. Heartpoet works crazy hours so it is important for our relationship to take some time out every now and then to stop and literally smell the roses. A delish light lunch in such a divine setting followed by a peruse of the gift shop and nursery always recharges our batteries. The cafe is run by a glorious group of "Nana types" who serve lick ya lips delish home style fare at ridiculous old fashioned prices. No matter what I have for lunch whilst there I always save room for one of their warm date scones served with real butter or jam and clotted cream ;]

It's the kind of place I want to take all my blog pals to as I know you would just love it there as much as we do! Sometimes as the balmy tropical breeze wafts through the covered gazebo and I sit sipping the last of my cuppa tea I think how nice it would be to take my mum there one day. In my day dreams anything is possible *sigh.*

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Sunday, November 6, 2011

Homemade Ginger or Mint Lemonade

Hot and humid here in Brissy! There is nothing more refreshing at this time of year than my homemade old style lemonade.

Ginger Lemonade

Makes approx 1 litre

You will need...

800 ml (approx 3 1/3 cups) water
120 g (1/2 cup) sugar
20 g ginger, peeled and sliced super thin
Zest of 1 lemon
150 ml (2/3 cup) fresh lemon juice

You then need to...

Combine all ingredients but the lemon juice in a saucepan and bring to the boil. Remove from the heat and leave to cool, allowing the ginger to infuse. Use a mesh strainer to sieve the ginger and zest from the lemonade. Stir in the lemon juice and refrigerate or serve immediately with ice.

Mint Lemonade

Makes approx 1 litre

You will need...

800 ml (approx 3 1/3 cups) water
120 g (1/2 cup) sugar
zest of 1 lemon
30 g fresh mint
200 ml (approx 3/4 cup) fresh lemon juice

You then need to...

Combine the water, sugar, mint, and zest in a saucepan. Bring to the boil and then set aside to cool, allowing the mint to infuse. Once cool, strain the mint and zest. Stir in the lemon juice and serve with ice or refrigerate.


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Saturday, November 5, 2011

It all depends on what you put in the blender ;)

I read an article recently that absolutely infuriated me. It was about step parents and whether or not they should be obligated to love their step children. The author assured step parents that they should be cordial and kind to their step children but they were under no obligation to feel any more than that. If they happened to love the kids, great. If not, oh well. As a step mum I found this article absolutely repulsive. Of course you should attempt to love your step children. The second part of that word is "children." Cordial?! FFS!! Whilst cordial is a step up from brutal treatment (that many step children endure) I seriously question how that type of step parent can look themself in the mirror each day?!

Even a grandparent or an aunt or uncle is expected to love the children they're related to, but somehow step parents only need to be polite? Nobody expects you to love them immediately the way a parent might (although it was love at first sight when I met Rhi just like it was when I first met her Dad) but your goal should be to eventually have the same sort of affection for them a parent would have.

It's not okay for you to treat your step child like a roommate as the article suggested. The sentence that had me most upset was this one "you married their father, not them." Bad news, people. If you marry someone with kids, you're marrying their kids. Any good parent's kids are going to be such a huge part of their life, it would be impossible to think you could be in it without being a crucial part of the lives of their children, regardless of whether or not the children live with him or their mother.

Can you love the child of another unconditionally as if he or she were your own? The answer is undoubtedly yes. I do and you can love the child of another unconditionally as if he or she were your own. The only difference is the pain in learning you cannot raise them as if they were your own, as they are not. I hate the term "step" and when people ask how many children I have I say two. Brenton is my biological child and Rhiannon is a child of my heart. We are a blended bonus family not a step family! I consider Rhiannon to be a lovely bonus and not undesirable baggage that came with her father. Although step families rarely make as smooth a transition as The Brady Bunch, it is possible to successfully blend a family. It all depends on what you put in the blender ;)

Friday, November 4, 2011

What would you like us to blog about?

What would you like myself or Heartpoet to blog about? What specific topics?

Please leave a comment below and we will do our absolute best to answer your questions in the coming weeks.

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