Power struggles

Bloomin lovely, yes?!

(photo from our garden)

"A power struggle collapses when you withdraw your energy from it. Power struggles become uninteresting to you when you change your intention from winning to learning about yourself." ~*Gary Zukav*~

Many times conflicts surface as a result of someone projecting their insecurities, faults or mistakes on to me. If I acknowledge their perspective with reflective language it tends to take the wind out of their sails. I find that when I am aware and in the moment I catch this. When I am off balance and not grounded I get drawn into their drama and like smoke and mirrors get mesmerized by the conflict. I then can't stay clear in my own thinking and own what is mine and what is theirs. The metaphor that works best for me when I feel and observe a power struggle - similar to a tug of war game going on - is "just drop the rope". When one party is not holding on to their end of the rope, the game stops ;)