Bloomin lovely, yes?!
(photo from our garden)
Many times conflicts surface as a result of someone projecting their insecurities, faults or mistakes on to me. If I acknowledge their perspective with reflective language it tends to take the wind out of their sails. I find that when I am aware and in the moment I catch this. When I am off balance and not grounded I get drawn into their drama and like smoke and mirrors get mesmerized by the conflict. I then can't stay clear in my own thinking and own what is mine and what is theirs. The metaphor that works best for me when I feel and observe a power struggle - similar to a tug of war game going on - is "just drop the rope". When one party is not holding on to their end of the rope, the game stops ;)